Dating With Dreadlocks
This is part one of a two-part series. Shout out to NHBG reader Duke from Monroe, LA, for this post idea. (What’s up, fam?)
Dating with dreadlocks comes with its own special subset of concerns. Dreads are still not a common hairstyle, and you can end up with someone who’s never dated a dread before.
To many dreadlocks are the unexplored territory of natural hair, surrounded by misinformation and mystique. Your new partner may be full of questions, curiosity, and (unfortunately) stereotypes about your hair.
Keep reading for six tips on how to break in your dreadlocks newbie.
Don’t try to convert your partner
Although natural hair has been making a comeback, it’s still not considered mainstream or acceptable to many, and dreadlocks are often not even an option. Everyone takes this natural hair ride at their own pace. Pressuring your partner to dread rarely works and will only turn them off from the idea completely.
The dread process should be fun and exciting, not something that’s forced. If and when your partner decides to take the plunge, it’ll be much more enjoyable and satisfying for the both of you if it’s something they genuinely want.
Don’t feel like a sellout
As dreadheads, whether we like it or not, we’re often seen as the ultimate natural hair ambassadors. If everyone in your clique has dreads and your partner doesn’t, or you’re natural but your girlfriend is relaxed, people will judge you.
The truth is everyone dreads for their own reasons, and you don’t have to prove anything to anyone. Being a dread doesn’t mean you can only be attracted to one type of beauty. Don’t let anyone put you in a box. Live your life.
Don’t be “that guy/girl”
You know that person who goes on a diet, loses 50 pounds, and then looks down on you because you’re still scarfing down hamburgers and haven’t “seen the light”? Don’t be that person.
OK. We get it. You’re a dread and you love it and they’re awesome. Give your partner a chance to figure that out on their own. The best way to do this is to show them. No matter how enlightened and conscious you are, no one will listen to a pompous jerk.