Dating Someone With Dreadlocks

Dating someone with dreadlocks

This is the second part of a two-part series. Click here to read part one, “6 Tips For Dating With Dreadlocks.”

So you’re dating someone with dreadlocks. Congratulations. We’re smart, funny, and not too hard on the eyes. (And not at all full of ourselves 😎 )

You may be a little curious about your partner’s hair, especially if it’s your first time dating a dread. That’s understandable. Maybe you’re a bit nervous about what to expect or how to adjust.

No worries. Read these six tips and you’ll be a dreadlock dating expert in no time.

The don'ts of dating someone with dreadlocks

Don’t Stereotype

Yes, we wash our hair. Yes, we listen to music besides Reggae. No, we don’t all smoke weed. And no, we’re not all Jamaican or Rasta.

Just as every relaxed person is different and all redheads aren’t the same, dreadheads are individuals. We chose our paths for different reasons ranging from spiritual to fashion to just wanting to grow some hair. Leave your stereotypes at the door and actually get to know who you’re dating.

Don’t touch

Some people find dreadlocks sexy. I knew a woman who only dated men with locs, and I’ve seen strangers touch a dread’s head without permission. I get the attraction and the curiosity but touching someone’s hair is a no-no. It’s called personal space. Respect it.

Anyone with a TWA or a baldie will tell you a person’s head and hair can be very sensual. The same applies to dreads. No one likes to be pawed. And if a person dreads for spiritual or religious reasons, their hair is sacred. So if you’re just starting to date, don’t assume because your partner has dreads it’s OK for you to touch. You have to earn that trust. Exercise a bit of common courtesy and ask first.

Don’t make “suggestions”

“Your dreadlocks would look soooo much better if you twisted/grew/colored/cut/curled them.” This statement is low-key insulting. You’re basically saying what they have now isn’t good enough. And nobody wants to hear that, especially if s/he didn’t ask for your opinion to begin with.

This is a tricky tip. I’m not saying you can’t speak up. After all, you’re dating. But there’s a way to go about it. And you have to earn your way up to that point. Hair can be a sensitive supject, particularly for women. Tread carefully and always speak from a place of love.

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7 Responses so far.

  1. Duke says:

    All so true. The next topic pertaining to dreads & romance should be What turns you on about dreadlocks.

  2. Jolie says:

    excellent post. I wish more people would read this!!!!!!

  3. Dee says:

    This might be TMI, but while my rastaman makes love to me, I can’t help but to touch his locks as I caress him, I love it! But as was mentioned here, I did just recently ask him how he felt about it. And I did let him know that I only touch with respect and love. He’s at work so I’m still eagerly waiting for his response…
    P.S. he is my first rastaman, and hopefully the one man I will be with forever. I am always online to get answers to questions! I want to learn everything if possible!

  4. For years I have always had my hair naturally low and wavy hair all over. But this year is definitely different for me I chose to grow my hair out and grow dreads. So far I have it in a Afro I have been married for 15 yrs to my first wife. And she doesn’t agree with what I want to do with my hair. She stated to me that my fro looks ugly on my head. I am 41 but I don’t look like it I look like I am still in my 30’s. I am at the point where My impressing people are over in my life. Am I wrong for going from low wavy natural hair to dreads??

  5. Stacie says:

    Im consodering lock extensions…I have soft fine curly hair which I’ve been told is “good hair” my whole life and I hate the comment to be honest. But my reason for loc extensions is because it 44 I just want to new look however I want the option to always change if I feel like it because I’m just that versatile type of person but anyway… are people that have grown natural dreads offended when people get lock extensions? This would not sway my decision I’m just curious to hear responses…

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